Recalculating Relationships | Wk 4

Sermon Notes

1 | THE REASON WE COME TO AND ARE COMMITTED TO THIS CHURCH, IS WE’RE GROWING AND CHANGING AND DISCOVERING AND LIVING OUR PURPOSE IN LIFE!

Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good.

1 Peter 2.1–3 NIV

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

Colossians 3.15–17 NIV

Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of men in their deceitful scheming. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ. From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.

Ephesians 4.14–16 NIV

2 | STUDYING AND APPLYING GOD’S WORD TO YOUR LIFE IS ESSENTIAL TO GROWING AND CHANGING THE WAY GOD WANTS YOU TO GROW AND CHANGE!

All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

2 Timothy 3.16–17 NIV

Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.

James 1.22 NIV

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you.

James 4.7–8 NIV

Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.

James 5.15–16 NIV

 My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,

James 1.19 NIV

3 | IN EVERY HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WE NEED TO BE QUICK TO LISTEN

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Philippians 2.2–4 NIV

Active listening is a communication technique used in counseling, training, and conflict resolution. It requires that the listener fully concentrate, understand, respond and then remember what is being said.

4 | IN EVERY HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WE NEED TO BE SLOW TO SPEAK!

The tongue has the power of life and death,

Proverbs 18.21 NIV

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Ephesians 4.29 NIV

4 tips for when you do speak: 

  1. Write down what you want to communicate ahead of time. 
  2. Be prayed up where nothing can touch you. 
  3. Have a witness if necessary. 
  4. Be positive, then negative, and then positive. 

5 | IN EVERY HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WE NEED TO BE SLOW TO ANGER!

2 things:

  1. The battle is won in the preparation. 
  2. The battle is won before you go to bed.

In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

Ephesians 4.25–27 NIV

Action Steps: 

Practice active listening every day this week in the key relationships in your life.

Where is God telling you that you need to be quick to listen?

Where do you need to do a better job of being slow to speak and slow to become angry?