Growing In Leadership Wk 5 // The Importance of "One Another"

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  • Other than your family, who are some of the most important relationships in your life right now?


Depending on what’s going on in our life, different people become more important to us at different times and different ways. For example, if you’ve ever cared for a loved one who was ill, then your relationship with certain doctors and nurses deepened and became more meaningful. Or if you’re a parent, the relationship with your child changes as the two of you age and experience different things. The people who are most important to us in our lives can vary, and often are tied to a specific purpose.

The same is true for our relationships with other Christians. They help us in our walk with Jesus, and vice versa. This is why small groups are so important. Regardless of what we’re going through, a small group meeting regularly insures that we are keeping our relationship with Jesus front and center. As God would have it, relationships with others in a relationship with God are crucial for our own relationship with God.



Spend a few minutes recapping this week's sermon together. Click here to view the sermon notes.

  • What was one takeaway from this week's sermon for you?

  • Were there any stories, ideas, or points that stuck out?

  • Was there anything that challenged you?




  • Paul use three metaphors to describe what it means to be a Christian. What are they, and what is significant about each of them?

All three of Paul’s metaphors speak to the importance of our relationship to other Christians. In verse 19, he states that Christians are “citizens with the saints.” In the same way that one might identify with others from the same country or state, so Paul says Christians relate to one another. The second metaphor in verse 19 intensifies the relationship: we are “members of God’s household.” We are to view our relationship with other Christians as we do our closest family members. Verses 20-22 drive the point home even further, pointing out that believers in Christ are “put together” or “built together” by God. Christians are not only citizens of the same country and members of the same family: they are “mortared” together permanently by God for His purpose and glory. The only question is whether we live like it.

  • Do you feel the same way about your relationships in the church and in your small group the way Paul says you should? Why or why not?

  • What kinds of things make church and small group relationships different than other kinds of relationships?

Church and small group relationships are not dependent on circumstances, experiences, race, gender, or any other natural factor. While these things might separate people in other situations, our differences in church and church small groups only serve to highlight the greatness of what we have in common.


  • What is Christ’s intention in giving spiritual gifts to His people?

  • In what ways are we each gift important to the life and growth of other Christians (vv. 15-16)?

Using the gifts God has equipped us with, we should help each other grow in Christ—speaking the truth in love and supporting each other. For ministry to be effective we need the gifts of others and others need us to use our gifts. That’s the beauty of the church body God created. Each person is gifted to benefit those around them. Strength is created within the body when each part works in conjunction with the others.

  • How can being a faithful member of a small group help bring about the unity this passage emphasizes and protects from the chaos mentioned in v. 14?


  • How have you seen Christian community suffer when certain parts are too weak or missing? On the other hand, how have you seen it thrive when everyone is using their gifts and serving one another?

  • What steps can you take to minimize unresolved differences in your community?

  • How can we help each other understand our individual functions within the body of Christ? What opportunities are you aware of at our church that would give people in our group the opportunities to exercise their specific gifts?


Close in prayer, asking God to press this truth on the hearts of all church members—that our relationship with God is made stronger through our relationships with others.

Brian Otte