Wk 6 // JACKED // Submit to One Another

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  • As a child, what was the biggest thing you ever did to disrespect or disobey your parents?

  • How big of an issue is lack of respect today between parents and children? What about between supervisors and employees?

  • Why might it be difficult for us to honor Jesus as a child honors a parent, or serve Him as a servant serves a master?


Based on our past, our family upbringing, life circumstances, or even bad bosses at work, it can be difficult to serve and honor Christ the way He calls us to. Exhibiting the same attitude of submission that He showed isn’t easy. As spouses, children, parents, workers, and supervisors, Christians are to show respect for Christ as well as for others. The Holy Spirit helps us humbly submit and serve one another in a way that honors Jesus.

In this week’s message, Pastor Sean talked about how our relational effort with our spouses, our kids, and our co-workers. When we honor God with our own lives, we improve our relationships with others.


Spend a few minutes recapping this week's sermon together. Click here to view the sermon notes.

  • What was one takeaway from this week's sermon for you?

  • Were there any stories, ideas, or points that stuck out?

  • Was there anything that challenged you?


Have a volunteer read Ephesians 5:22-33.

  • How would you define submission? Why does the word tend to stir up controversy?

  • What does true submission look like? What does it not look like?

  • How does the church submit to Christ?

Submission doesn’t imply losing your sense of worth or self. It is a voluntary and loving choice to follow in a way that displays how Christians follow Jesus. Christians don’t submit because someone forces them to do so; they submit voluntarily. A wife isn’t forced to think of herself as her husband’s property. She should see herself as his partner and receive from him sacrificial love.

  • How does a relationship centered on sacrificial love and submission reflect the gospel? How can you and your spouse keep these ideas as a common part of your marriage?

  • What value does a passage like this have for you if you aren’t married?

Though Ephesians 5 is often quoted to remind women of their struggle of submission, it is the husband who actually receives the greater challenge from God. He must love with the love of Jesus. It is clear, though, that each action serves the other. Mutual love and respect offers the best chance for a successful home. Paul then transitioned to the relationship between children and parents.

Have a volunteer read Ephesians 6:1-4.

  • How can children of all ages and family situations give their parents the respect God commands?

  • When is it appropriate for parents to submit to their kids?

No Christian ever grows beyond the responsibility to show respect for his or her parents by honoring them. If children are to honor their parents, then parents have a reciprocal responsibility to be submissive to their needs in ways that will lead them to maturity. Growing up in a Christian home is to be a positive, encouraging experience for both parents and children.

Have a final volunteer read Ephesians 6:5-9.

  • Why do you think Paul emphasized the importance of an employee’s attitude so much? What makes it especially challenging to practice biblical submission in the workplace?

  • How would your workplace be different if people willingly submitted to their bosses and coworkers?

These verses in their first setting were a call to Christian slaves to obey their earthly masters, to always do good work, and to serve as if they were doing it for Christ. As Christian employees, we show respect for those who employ us by getting along with them, by doing good work all the time, and by keeping in mind our relationship with Christ.


  • In which of these relationships—with God, your spouse, your parents, your children, or in the workplace—do you find it the most challenging to submit? Why? What step can you take to practice biblical submission in that area of your life this week?

  • In your own words, how would you explain God’s plan for relationships?

  • What happens in relationships that lack love and respect? What is something you can do this week to show love and respect to someone in your family or your workplace?


Ask that God would help you live out Jesus’ example of submission in each of these relationships in your life. Thank Him for Jesus’ example of submission at the cross.

Brian Otte